Coaching is a relatively new success tool in the world. Understandably, you're curious. Here are some of the most commonly asked questions. For any other inquiries, please contact me using the information on the business card you received.
What is Coaching all about, anyway?
LET’S GET TO THE NITTY-GRITTY HERE.
COACHING ISN'T FOR PROBLEMS.
COACHING IS FOR BOLD, SEXY, POWERFUL GOALS.
Problems are solvable.
You're a creative, resourceful person - you know how to solve problems. In fact, I'd bet you're really good at it. Think of all the problems you've solved today alone!
Instead, let's work on your GOALS. The big, juicy things that you want to achieve, and be KNOWN and APPLAUDED for. The things that make you so incredible that once you finish, there's a ™ after your name. Goals so high that people think you're off your rocker, but you know you can do it.
Hiring a life coach isn’t something you should do on a whim. If you’re not sure whether or not you want a life coach, then let’s be honest, you probably aren't ready for one. Be prepared for your life to become provocative and challenging, and know that it’s only effective when you’re 100% ready to do the work.
If you’re here reading this, chances are good that you know the legacy you want to leave. Chances are good that you’re itching to change something. Chances are good that you’re pretty close to 100% ready to do the work.
If you’re ready, I’m ready.
What happens when I hire you as my coach?
Here’s the very simple explanation of coaching:
It's my job to ask the right questions.
It's your job to be ready to find the answers.
What does that mean, exactly? It means we're going to dive deep into inquiry together. I’ll ask some really powerful questions, ones that beg you to intimately explore yourself in a way that perhaps you haven’t done before.
We’ll talk about what values you hold high. We’ll search for what truly motivates you. You'll find out EXACTLY what you want your life to be like, feel like, sound like, and taste like. You’ll do a lot of exploration.
I’ll present the question six different ways if that’s how we need to get to the best answer. I’m not going let you off the hook just because you “don’t know.” I’m not your best friend. I’m here to challenge you to achieve your goals, and hold you accountable to that commitment.
I'll walk alongside you as you journey closer and closer to your best self.
You’ll likely find yourself more aware, more energetic, and more focused while we work together. You’ll stumble and fall once in a while. I’ll forgive you, and you’ll forgive yourself. You’ll pick up and move forward. You’ll always be moving forward. My job is to keep you on the path you’ve chosen to living your authentic, full life.
People will casually mention how much happier and focused you seem. This is normal. Embrace it! Thank them! Pay attention to how much taller you're walking now.
logistically, how does this work?
Coaching with me happens primarily by telephone. I prefer this to in-person or video chat because when we are in front of someone, we carry a facade - no matter how small. On the phone, it’s just your voice and my voice, and in my experience, that works best for our authenticity together.
In between our phone calls is when all the really productive, juicy work happens. This is when you put rubber to road, and carry out the homework and inquiry assignments that you’ll discover on each call. During the time that I’m your coach, you'll have unlimited access to me by email. I welcome check-ins, questions, challenges, feedback, and updates as often as you’d like.
A coaching agreement typically lasts for 6-12 months, and can continue indefinitely. When you’re focused on achieving a goal or making a big change, a commitment is absolutely necessary to achieve what you're passionately after.
I have a therapist. Should i trade them in for a coach?
I have a therapist too! And I also have a coach. They both serve really powerful purposes and I am very grateful to have access to both of them for different reasons. Here's why:
Therapy is a psychoanalytical way of looking at your past experiences and helping you to understand how your past affects why you behave the way you do.
Therapy also works with emotional and psychological diagnoses like Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or Co-Dependency. If you want to do specific work on any of these issues or if you’d like help with current or past abuse or addiction, a therapist is best.
Coaching begins right now, in this very moment - and helps you move FORWARD.
You decide who you want to become, or what you want to accomplish, and a coach will help you get there. In other words, we don’t look back - because we’re not going that way. As your coach, I expect that you’ve done (or are doing) your mental health work and are comfortable making solid, committed choices for your future.
Hiring a life coach means that you are committed to a specific end result (whether that's a tangible goal or an emotional goal), and you want to be challenged and to have accountability on your journey to get there.
why should i have a QUEER / LESBIAN life coach?
If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, it can be frustrating working with someone who doesn’t speak your language. Even allies well-versed in the conversation can be hard to connect with if you sense they aren’t really seeing you completely.
I have found success in my own life by choosing to work with LGBTQ-identified professionals. My coach, my therapist, my mentors, my doctor, and my closest colleagues are all a part of this community.
It can be very empowering to be seen and acknowledged as the Whole You.
There are paths we travel that are unique to our community. I am here to help you navigate them in a language that we speak together.